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Introduction: “What’s in a P?” What is in a letter? That which we call a p. By any other letter would it pop so perfectly? —Juliet, if she had met the Letter P at the Capulet's masquerade ball It's just a letter. There are 26 letters in the English Alphabet. But alas. I work at a place that requires many last names to be alphabetically organized. We also look up last names in the computer. I was checking in a person who said last name, "Thompson." I was searching and searching and they weren't in the system! I knew this person had to be in the system because I had seen them before. At this time I was also training, so I was new to the software and new to asking the right questions to get the file. "There's no p," they eventually said. And that began the rabbit hole search I went into to find out that sometimes, there isn't a p in Thomson. BUT WHY?? Usage of the Letter P The letter P, as a voiceless bilabial plosive (basically the puff of air you make when saying "pop"), is super common phonetically, but its presence in alphabets and scripts varies widely. Languages that Use P: These languages all use the Latin alphabet, which includes the letter P. English (of course) Spanish – e.g., papel, persona French – pouvoir, petit German – Papier, Politik Italian – pasta, parlare Portuguese, Dutch, Swedish, Finnish, Polish, etc. Other Scripts That Use or Represent "P" Sounds: Languages written in non-Latin scripts often do have a P sound, even if they don’t use our exact “P” symbol. Greek: Π (pi) – literally the origin of our P! Cyrillic: П (pronounced like “P” in Russian and related languages) Arabic: Arabic technically lacks a native “P”, but uses پ (peh) in Persian, Urdu, and Pashto. Hebrew: פ (Pe) can make a “P” or “F” sound depending on diacritics. Korean: ㅍ (pieup) = “P” sound. Japanese: “P” appears in katakana syllables like パ (pa), ピ (pi), etc. Georgian: Has its own version of the “P” sound, but written differently (პ). Chinese (Pinyin): Uses "P" to represent the /pʰ/ sound (e.g., píngguǒ = apple), but Mandarin doesn’t have a native voiced /b/ and voiceless /p/ contrast — it uses aspiration instead. Xhosa & Zulu: /p/ is rare, not totally absent, but uncommon compared to other consonants. Languages That Don’t Use “P” (or Have It Rarely) Here’s where it gets fun — some languages lack a “P” sound entirely, or use it very rarely: Arabic (Modern Standard): No native “P” sound — it often turns into a “B” when borrowing. Parking → often pronounced barking. Hawaiian: No “P” in the original alphabet, but it does exist now in the limited modern alphabet — and the sound exists. Tlingit: A Native Alaskan language — lacks a /p/ sound entirely. Why Would a Language Not Have "P"? It comes down to: Phonemic inventory: Some languages just don’t distinguish between /p/ and /b/. Sound changes over time: For example, Ancient Arabic likely lost the /p/ early on. Borrowing pressure: In languages that borrow heavily from English or French, the “P” gets adopted phonetically (even if it’s not native). So what’s in a single letter? As we’ve seen, the humble P doesn’t even show up in every language — yet where it does, it can quietly reshape meaning, pronunciation, and even identity.  Thom...? Thompson Patronymic surname meaning “son of Thom/Thomas.” Common in English-speaking countries. The p is a later addition. Thomson The surname is documented in Cheshire records before and after the 1066 Norman Conquest. Same root, but often traced more specifically to Scotland. The “p”-less version aligns with older Scottish linguistic patterns. James Thomson (the poet) and J.J. Thomson (physicist) are notable namesakes. The P in Thompson is decorative AND directional! Cultural Vibes & Associations Thomson and Thompson Remember Thomson and Thompson? Characters in The Adventures of Tintin. The detective with the flat, drooping walrus moustache is Thompson and introduces himself as "Thompson, with a 'P', as in psychology" (or any such word in which the "P" is silent), while the detective with the flared, pointed moustache is Thomson, who often introduces himself as "Thomson, without a 'P', as in Venezuela." Thompson Twins Funny enough, the English pop band, Thompson Twins based their name off of the bumbling detectives. You know them. You know their songs. At least the top five in their Greatest Hits album: "In the Name of Love" from Set "Lies" from Quick Step and Side Kick "We Are Detective" from Quick Step and Side Kick "If You Were Here" from Quick Step and Side Kick "Love on Your Side" from Quick Step and Side Kick At no point was the band made up of only two "twins," often having three or more. But it was the 80s. Nothing needed to make sense, you just had to have that wild hair. Shown below: Thompson Twins in 1985, left to right: Joe Leeway, Alannah Currie and Tom Bailey. Eugene "Flash" Thompson Eugene "Flash" Thompson is a character appearing in American comic books published by Marvel Comics. Created by writer Stan Lee and artist Steve Ditko, the character first appeared in Amazing Fantasy #15 (August 1962). Flash Thompson is a star high school football player, who mercilessly bullies his high school classmate Peter Parker, but greatly admires Spider-Man, an irony in which the superhero takes some gratification. In time, they become close friends in college after Flash matures and he later discovers Peter is Spider-Man. From Comic Vine Point is, you've been seeing Thompson and/or Thomson all over the modern media! Will you take more notice now? I know that I have! Why It Matters in Reference (to YOU) What is in a name? It shapes understanding. They’re labels, sure, but they’re also loaded with identity, history, family ties, assumptions, and emotional resonance. Consider the following regarding Thompson vs Thomson: A signal of heritage (is it Scottish? Anglicized? Colonial?) A clue to origin stories (immigration patterns, lost accents, bureaucratic edits) A point of reference — which one gets mispronounced? Which one feels more “correct”? Which one shows up in records, in books, in assumptions? When I zoom in on a tiny difference like that lone P, I'm trying to spotlight how language holds both specificity and slippage. It’s a reminder that language is precise, but people are messy — and a name is a living artifact of that tension. Which is why you, a writer who parses meaning from nuance, finds so much richness in it. So this isn’t just about two surnames. It’s about how a small orthographic flick becomes a metaphor for everything your series digs into: detail, perception, and the wild power of reference. Conclusion: One Letter, Two Worlds One letter apart. Two very real names. And a prime example of how a single character—especially one as precarious as P—can shift perception, heritage, and reference entirely. I invite you to reflect on the beauty (and chaos) of language. And, next time you write a thank-you card to somebody—read my blog post about Writing Something Else—double-check the P.” Poking at patterns, pronunciation, and perception, Katherine Arkady

Introduction “It is the long history of humankind (and animal kind, too) that those who learned to collaborate and improvise most effectively have prevailed.” —   Charles Darwin The English naturalist, geologist, and biologist couldn't have said it better.   The power of collaboration and improvisation are key factors in survival and success. Why else would you hear actors and actresses thanking a slew of people? Like Ca te Blanchett in her acceptance speech for Actress in a Leading Role in  Blue Jasmine  at the 2013 (86th) Academy Awards : " Thank you to my mum, to my sister, to my brother, to my three glorious sons; I would not be standing here without you. To my husband Andrew, you are a legend. Thank you to my agent Hylda Queally; you're behind the pillar somewhere up there. You are a goddess. To my agent in Australia, Robyn Gardiner, I love you so very much. To my publicist Lisa Kasteler. To the sublime Sally Hawkins and to the extraordinary cast of "Blue Jasmine," I don't know how to do this without other actors and this I share with you. To the hair and makeup people who sweated me up and tried to make me look attractive, thank you for the attempt. To Carla Meyer, for getting Sally and I together and for incredible support. To Helen Robin. To everyone involved in " Blue Jasmine ," I thank you so much." She wouldn't have been able to stand on that stage without any of those folk lifting her up! Who are your people? Who could your people be? 1. Fellow Writers Duh, right? I have a whole Self Care for Writers blog post about the importance   Finding Other Writers  so I won't beat a dead horse about it. But they're ultimately your best bet at support. They know what you're going through. Furthermore, it should be no surprise to you that being a writer isn't the most lucrative business. Because of this, writers often have side hustles:   writing coach, writing consultant, beta reader, critique partner, research assistant, developmental editor, copyeditor, proofreader , etc etc etc. With their help (and fully paid rates because we support our community   💚 ) you can get valuable feedback on your manuscript, get advice on career strategies, and be lead through creative roadblocks. This team can make the writing process more structured and less isolating. How to Find the Right... Writing Coach :  Look for a coach with experience in your genre who understands your goals and offers strategies to improve your writing. Writing Consultant :  Find a consultant who specializes in the area you need help with, such as story structure or publishing, and has proven expertise. Beta Reader :  Choose readers who understand your genre and target audience, and clearly communicate what feedback you're seeking. Critique Partner :  Select a critique partner with similar writing goals and establish clear expectations for mutual feedback and collaboration. Research Assistant :  Hire someone with knowledge in your field who can gather, organize, and summarize relevant research materials efficiently. Developmental Editor :  Look for an editor who is experienced in your genre and provides constructive feedback on content, structure, and overall story development. Copyeditor :  Choose a copyeditor with attention to detail who can polish your manuscript for clarity, consistency, and grammatical accuracy. Proofreader :  Hire a proofreader who is meticulous and experienced in catching grammar, punctuation, and spelling errors in the final draft. 2. Workshops with Writing Experts Instructors with experience in the writing industry and the workshops they teach are worth their weight in gold. They provide a structured environment where you can receive constructive feedback, learn new techniques, and gain fresh perspectives on your work. And the community you gain from them! You'll connect with fellow writers all day! Every single person in the room with you understands the challenges of the craft. They also create opportunities for accountability, helping you stay motivated and focused on your writing goals. By learning from the lecture and participating in interactive discussions, you can sharpen your skills, build confidence, and get encouraged about your writing path. Things to Look For in a Workshop: Review past participant testimonials  to gauge the value and effectiveness of the workshop. Look for workshops that offer ongoing support , like follow-up sessions or alumni groups. Choose a workshop with a specific focus  (e.g., character development, dialogue, or plot structure) if you want to hone a particular skill. Consider the class size —smaller groups often allow for more personalized feedback. Check the workshop format  to see if it includes hands-on writing exercises or assignments. Seek out workshops that cater to your writing level , whether you’re a beginner or an experienced writer. Look for workshops with a positive and encouraging atmosphere , especially if you're nervous about sharing your work. Pay attention to time commitments  and make sure they fit your schedule. See if the workshop includes networking opportunities , like meet-and-greet sessions with industry professionals or fellow writers. Opt for workshops that provide resources , such as reading lists, templates, or access to recorded sessions. Confirm if there’s a focus on actionable feedback , rather than just praise or criticism. Consider workshops that explore publishing options , if you’re interested in preparing your work for submission. Ask if the workshop includes personalized feedback from the instructor  on your work. Look for workshops with a diversity of voices , ensuring a broader range of perspectives. Check for writing prompts and exercises  that challenge you creatively. See if the workshop offers replays or recordings  if you miss a live session. Consider the workshop’s focus on craft versus theory , depending on your needs. Find workshops with built-in accountability systems  to help you stay motivated after the course ends. Look for ones that encourage peer feedback  to build connections with fellow writers. See my   Finding Other Writers  blog post for more information about workshops and conferences. 3. Friends and Family While the first two focus on folk that are in the industry, after a while, things can start to sound like an echo chamber. Sneaking out of that world to hang out with non-writers is essential. Furthermore, being around people who know you outside of your writing helps you remember that   your worth isn’t tied to your latest draft or a publishing deal.   It’s a great reminder to enjoy the present moment. You'll finally release all that tension help you  relax . When you’re less stressed, your creativity flows more freely. When your creativity flows, inspiration can come from your loved ones’ stories, quirks, or life experiences. This can inspire characters, dialogue, or scenes in your work and that makes drafting easier. And even if the spark doesn't come from that, your friends and family are there to help you believe in what you're doing even when you're doubting yourself. How to Involve Them in Your Process: Casual story brainstorming : Over dinner or coffee, talk through plot points you’re stuck on. Non-writers can sometimes offer surprisingly creative solutions because they’re not constrained by writing conventions. Ask for feedback : For less formal projects, share a chapter or scene with a family member or friend who enjoys reading. Getting their reactions can be both encouraging and enlightening. Engage them as beta readers : If you’re comfortable, having a trusted friend or family member read an early draft can give you insight into how your story might resonate with a general audience. Take writing breaks together : Invite a friend for a walk, game night, or movie marathon when you need to step away from your work. These breaks can help reset your mind and spark new inspiration. Use them as a sounding board for character development : If you’re struggling with a character’s motivation or dialogue, ask someone close to you how they’d react in a similar situation. It can help ground your characters in realistic behavior. Celebrate small wins : Whether it’s finishing a chapter, hitting a word count goal, or just writing after a tough week, celebrate with your loved ones. It’s a great way to recognize your progress and keep you motivated. Ask them about their own passions : Engaging in conversations about what they’re interested in can take your mind off writing and might spark new, unrelated ideas that can find their way into your stories. Plan writing retreats with friends or family : If they’re supportive, you can combine a weekend getaway with dedicated writing time, allowing for a mix of productivity and relaxation. Lean on them during tough times : If you’re facing rejection or feeling discouraged, let them be your emotional support system. Sometimes, just venting to someone who cares can help lift the weight off your shoulders. 4. Specifically Mom Biological mothers, step mothers, foster moms, adoptive moms. Madre (Spanish), mère (French), Mutter (German), madre (Italian), mãe (Portuguese), moeder (Dutch), māmā (Hindi), 母 [haha] (Japanese), 어머니 [eomeoni] (Korean), 母亲 [mǔqīn] (Chinese), anne (Turkish), أم [umm] (Arabic). No matter what you call them or how they got that way, our motherly figures fill a part of our soul that keeps us going. The Tony Awards has a   compilation video on YouTube  of all the mentions of Moms in the acceptance speeches. Warning: tears ahead. A moving ode to moms was made by Kevin Durant in his   2014 NBA MVP acceptance speech : "And last, my mom. I don't think you know what you did. You had my brother when you were 18 years old. Three years later, I came out. The odds were stacked against us. Single parent with two boys by the time you were 21 years old. Everybody told us we weren't supposed to be there. We moved from apartment to apartment, by ourselves. One of the best memories I had is when we moved into our first apartment - no bed, no furniture, and we just all sat in the living room and just hugged each other. We thought we made it. When something good happens to you - I don't know about you guys, but I tend to look back to what brought me here. You waking me up in the middle of the night in the summertime, making me run up a hill. Making me do pushups. Screaming at me from the sideline at my games at 8 or 9 years old. We weren't supposed to be here. You made us believe, you kept us off the street. You put clothes on our backs, food on the table. When you didn't eat, you made sure we ate. You went to sleep hungry. You sacrificed for us. You're the real MVP." Moms have a way of grounding us, reminding us of our capabilities, and bringing us back to ourselves. Ways Your Mom Can Help: Be a sounding board for brainstorming ideas  when you're stuck or unsure of a plot point. Offer life experiences and stories  that can inspire characters or scenes in your writing. Help proofread for typos or errors  with a fresh set of eyes. Celebrate your wins , big or small, to keep you motivated. Provide constructive feedback  while still being supportive and kind. Share recipes of a favorite meal or snack  to fuel your writing sessions. Be your accountability partner , checking in on your progress without pressuring you. Offer emotional support  during rejections or tough critiques. Celebrate milestones , like finishing a draft or submitting a query Encourage you to keep going  when self-doubt creeps in. Read your work out loud  so you can hear how it flows. Offer her perspective  on characters or themes from her unique point of view. Help you unplug  from social media or other distractions to focus on writing. Keep you grounded  when you’re overthinking your story. 5. Mental Health Professional/Therapist According to a study done by Nancy C. Andreasen titled   The relationship between creativity and mood disorders : " Rates of mood disorder are extremely high in the writers; 80% had some type of mood disorder, and 30% had either bipolar I or bipolar II disorder. Both these rates are significantly different from the control subjects. The writers also had higher rates of alcohol abuse than the controls. This study has been replicated by several other investigators." Writing can be an emotionally demanding journey, especially when your work makes attempts at understanding deeply personal, complex, and sometimes traumatic themes. Exploring sensitive topics (like trauma, grief, or conflict) can often stir up intense feelings. This leaves writers emotionally drained or even triggered from past experiences. This is where having a   trusted  mental health  professional  can be incredibly beneficial. A therapist can offer a safe space to process the emotions that come up during your writing, helping you navigate through the stress, self-doubt, and vulnerability that often accompany the creative life. My therapist is the   best .  She has taught me tools and skills to avoid burnout, to manage my imposter syndrome and rejection sensitivity, and how to cope with opening up those "Pandora's Boxes" of plot from past traumas. Additionally, my therapist has helped me develop healthier boundaries between my work life, my writing life, and my personal life, which has gone a  long  way. She and she alone was the one to keep my creative passion from becoming a source of emotional exhaustion. If you can get access to mental healthcare,   please  reach out to somebody. There is help for any ailment and there is hope for any of your despair. What to Look For in a Therapist: Specialization in creative professions:  Seek out a therapist with experience working with artists, writers, or creatives who understand the specific challenges and pressures of the writing process. Experience with anxiety, burnout, or stress management:  Look for someone who can offer practical tools to handle the pressures of deadlines, creative blocks, or the emotional weight of your stories. Approachability and trust:  Choose a therapist with whom you feel comfortable opening up about your struggles, as a strong therapeutic relationship is crucial for effective treatment. You're not bound to a therapist. For lack of a better term--shop around! Flexible scheduling options:  Given the unpredictable nature of the creative process, a therapist who offers virtual sessions or flexible appointment times can be ideal. Practical coping strategies:  Look for a therapist who provides actionable advice, such as mindfulness exercises, breathing techniques, or cognitive reframing, to help you manage the ups and downs of writing. Non-judgmental support:  Find someone who respects your creative work and provides an accepting space where you can express your fears, insecurities, and frustrations without feeling dismissed. A focus on emotional resilience:  Consider therapists who can help you build resilience to handle critiques, rejections, and the self-imposed pressure to constantly produce. By investing in your mental well-being, you not only protect yourself from the emotional toll of writing but also nurture a healthier, more sustainable creative practice. We like sustainable practices. 6. Your Hairdresser, Nail Tech, Lash Tech, Tattoo Artist, Seamstress, Barber, Esthetician, Make Up Artist, and/or Personal Trainer Sure, they're not paid to listen to your life like therapists are. Sure, you don't go to them specifically to talk. But you're the focus in this scenario, so some chatting is bound to happen. I've talked to folks of all the above and they feel like their job description says "therapist" in tiny letters at the very bottom. Why It Matters: Helps build connections : Forming friendly relationships with these professionals can give you a sense of community and support, which is especially valuable if writing feels isolating. Promotes self-care and confidence : Taking care of your physical body can boost your self-esteem, helping you feel refreshed and ready to tackle your creative projects. Provides structure to your schedule : Regular appointments can serve as a welcome break in your writing routine, giving you something to look forward to. Fosters mindfulness and relaxation : Focusing on physical self-care during these sessions can help you stay present, letting go of creative stressors and mental clutter. Inspires sensory experiences : The sights, sounds, and smells of a salon, spa, or gym can stimulate your senses and spark new creative ideas or story elements. Plus, getting out of your writing space for these activities will shift your mindset and refresh your focus. Encourages self-reflection : Conversations with friendly professionals can lead to new insights about your work, life, or goals, simply by having someone listen. Invites spontaneous inspiration : A simple chat with these professionals might trigger a new plot twist or character development idea. I've been so surprised by the stories they end up telling   me! Provides a healthy outlet for venting : Having a non-judgmental ear to listen to your frustrations about writer’s block or creative struggles can be therapeutic. Having a friendly interaction with your "glam squad" is a small but meaningful connection that can help you stay motivated. Just make sure you tip well because we support our community.   💚 Conclusion As writers, we tend to fall into the habit of carrying the weight of our projects alone. But building a support system can provide reassurance, feedback, and a sense of belonging.  Because you do belong.   Furthermore, it's very very  very  important to do your part in this community and be a support person for others. For you to be a safe place for another person? Trust me when I say that you get rewarded tenfold. Seek the light, be the light. And have a list of people for your own acceptance speech. You can find inspiration on the  Academy Awards Acceptance Speech Database . I'd like to thank The Academy and my mother, Katherine Arkady

Introduction What is the going rate for a donut in your area? I can get a classic glazed from Dunkin' for $1.09. If I'm feeling fancy, I go to my local small business donut shop and get a (vegan) Jamaican coconut crème donut. It's worth the $4 price tag. Now, I don't get them often because the fried dough gives me heartburn, but I'll bet dollars to donuts that you've heard the phrase "dollars to donuts" before. Where did this phrase start? When did donuts become that valuable? And why are pastries involved with financial wagers? Table of Contents: What Does "Dollars to Donuts" Even Mean? A Bite of History Why Donuts? Popularity, Modern Usage, and Variations of "Dollars to Donuts" Conclusion What Does “Dollars to Donuts” Even Mean? You see, donuts to dollars aren't valuable. The whole idea of this phrase is that one is placing a high-value item (dollars) against something of little value (donuts), implying a sure bet. Somebody has to be very confident that they're right in order to say this. It comes from when doughnuts were only 5 ¢ -10 ¢ each, so it's like saying "I'd give you 20:1 odds that I'm right." A Bite of History In a feature of how good humans can be, fried dough has been around for ages. A recipe for a deep-fried dough ball was recorded by Cato the Elder in his de agri cultura , using cheese, honey, and poppy seeds, called globi . Doesn't matter what you call them: fried dough cakes, oily cakes, dough "nuts," dow nuts, dough-nuts, and doughnuts. They have been enjoyed here, there, and yonder from China, England, Spain, Portugal, Denmark, Bavaria, and other reaches of the world. But where did the classic donut we commonly think about come to fruition? According to the Wikipedia page for Doughnuts , Donut rings were invented by American (go figure) Hanson Gregory, who claimed to have invented the ring-shaped doughnut in 1847 aboard a lime-trading ship when he was 16 years old. Gregory was dissatisfied with the greasiness of doughnuts twisted into various shapes and with the raw center of regular doughnuts. He claimed to have punched a hole in the center of dough with the ship's tin pepper box, and to have later taught the technique to his mother. Why Donuts? During the Great Depression, donuts solidified their status as an affordable treat. They were so economical that most Americans could purchase them, leading to their moniker as the "everyman food." The Salvation Army had "Doughnut Girls" offering donuts to immigrants arriving at Ellis Island, symbolizing a warm and accessible welcome to America. So back then, they were very, very affordable and cost much less than a dollar. A very safe bet to make! (Sigh) How times have changed. Could it have been another food? Sure! American English in the 19th century was primed with food items being used as slang material to describe people, situations, and feelings: “Apple pie order”  – neat and tidy. “Cheesed off”  – annoyed or irritated. “Cool as a cucumber”  – calm under pressure. “Spill the beans”  – to reveal a secret. “Go bananas”  – to act crazy (slightly later, 20th century) But for whatever reason dollars to doughnuts — the alliteration, the matching syllables, the frivolity? — caught on and became the idiom. Popularity, Modern Usage, and Variations of "Dollars to Donuts" This isn't the case for everywhere in the world. In the United Kingdom, the phrase is “a pound to a penny.” The idea being you’re so sure of the outcome you’d risk a pound to win a penny. In the 19th century, Americans adopted a similar phrase “dollars to dimes,” which, like the British one, has the added advantage of being inflation proof. In the modern era, even though inflation has rendered the phrase questionable, "dollars to donuts" still pops up in media. Examples: Ash vs Evil Dead - The Morgue [S02E02] Sheriff Thomas Emery : But, dollars to donuts, Ash Williams will figure in his explanation, somehow. Family Guy - The Boys in the Band [S15E01] Stewie : Well, how could they address baby issues? Brian : Children's songs are written by adults. And, dollars to donuts, white adults. Archer  - Danger Island: Some Remarks on Cannibalism [S09E06] Mallory Archer : But I'll bet you dollars to donuts, they've already escaped, found the idol, and are just yucking it up! Joe Pickett - Joey, Get Your Gun [S01E03] Mitch : If I was a gambling man, which I'm not, I would bet donuts to dollars it was Kyle Lensegrav and Calvin... The Sopranos - S02E11 Drama Dr. Elliot Kupferberg : Dollars to donuts, you're being exposed to an irritant in the air. Extract Brian : That's his whole career, driving that damn forklift. You'd think he'd wanna learn how.                         Joel : Well, I guess he's got that band he's in too...                   Brian :  I'll bet dollars to donuts he sucks at that too. Special thank you to Yarn for being a website where I can search for gifs by keyword. It helps in searches like this one. Conclusion Dollars to donuts : it's visual, it's vivid, it's funny. Donuts are iconic in their own right. They even have a holiday on the first Friday of June of each year! It started in 1938 as a fundraiser for Chicago's The Salvation Army . Their goal was to help those in need during the Great Depression , and to honor the Salvation Army "Lassies" of World War I, who served donuts to soldiers. So, next time you’re sure of something, go ahead— bet your dollars to donuts . It’s a sweet way to sound confident. Time to make the donuts , Katherine Arkady

Introduction In the final installment of the Pilots  series, Katherine wraps up her conversation with Marco and Nate—two seasoned regional pilots whose combined 17 years of flight time have given them more than a few stories to tell. This episode is a mix of myth-busting, industry truths, and the kind of pilot-lingo-fueled banter that gives you a peek behind the cockpit curtain. From “souls on board” and why that phrase lingers, to the moments when aviation and pop culture go hilariously off-course, this one’s a must for anyone who’s ever looked up and wondered what life is like at 35,000 feet. If you’re a writer digging into aviation, a listener who loves behind-the-scenes chats, or just someone who enjoys a good origin story, you’ll find a soft place to land here. Let’s hang. Here's the link to this specific podcast episode on my website.  Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! Timestamps 00:00:49 What movies, media, pop culture gets it wrong? 00:06:50  So with call-ins, call-outs, when you're talking about anything over the radio? What certain points need to be hit in order to be understood? What are you identifying? 00:13:38 What is something that you think most people in your field would like to have changed? 00:16:18 The divorce rate for the pilot 00:19:59 Is it something that you notice, more wild with the younger crowd, more wild with the older crowd? 00:21:09 Is there a physical item related to piloting or aviation that you guys cherish? 00:24:48 How does one adapt the pilot speak? 00:25:57 If I weren't in this field, I would never believe what? 00:29:11 You've mentioned the newer prospects and stuff. Is there any advice that you have for them outside of just keep pushing through? 00:35:15 And when they refer to your passengers, they say, how many souls on board? 00:36:53 You mentioned souls being old terminology. Is there other old terminology that's bled through? 00:37:15 Alpha, bravo, trolley, delta, echo. You guys have that memorized now? 00:37:52 So if you weren't a pilot…   00:43:27 So best job ever. 00:44:12 What got me into aviation? 00:49:01 What are pink tags? Key Takeaways: Pop culture rarely gets pilots right Movies dramatize the cockpit, but pilots say the real thing is more about precision than adrenaline. The gap between entertainment and aviation reality shapes public misconceptions about the job. The words matter—radio talk isn’t just jargon From clearances to cockpit chatter, aviation language is built for clarity, not flair. Pilots break down how communication keeps people safe and how it reflects culture, hierarchy, and confidence in flight. Behind the uniform: burnout, stress, and sacrifice Irregular hours, emotional distance, and intense responsibility can wear pilots down. These stories reveal the human cost of aviation careers and why mental health needs to be taken more seriously in the industry. Advice to new pilots? Think endurance, not ego It’s not all cinematic flair. New aviators need patience, humility, and a long-game mindset. Success in aviation often looks more like consistency than charisma. Why they keep flying: joy, gear, and small moments Despite everything, pilots return to the skies for the same reasons they started: the sound of a favorite aircraft, a smooth landing, or the simple awe of seeing the world from above. Purpose often lives in the details. Editor's Note: We’ve all seen the movie pilots: cool, confident, with sunglasses and a flair for one-liners. But real-life pilots? They’re a fascinating blend of discipline, humor, and unexpected vulnerability—and in this episode, you’ll hear exactly that. As a writer, this final chapter in the series was gold. The way Marco and Nate peel back the layers of industry norms, emotional toll, and linguistic quirks gave me more than material—it gave me perspective. If you’ve ever tried to write an aviation scene or build a character in uniform, you’ll want to eavesdrop on this. And if you’re just here for the vibes? Buckle up. You’re in good hands. Links & Resources: Phonetic Alphabet via Wikipedia Radio Communications Phraseology and Techniques Guide  supplied by the FAA Reddit AMA's (Ask Me Anything) with Pilots Aviation Slang from Sierra Hotel Aeronautics' website Part One of this Series Part Two of this Series May your metaphors stay smooth and your stories stay airborne, Katherine Arkady

Introduction In Part Two  of this 3-part series, Katherine stays grounded (figuratively) while flying deep (literally) with Marco and Nate, two seasoned regional pilots with 17 years of experience between them. This time, the conversation gets personal—and sometimes hilariously honest—as they dive into the emotions, stereotypes, and unexpected curveballs that come with a life spent in the sky. From the thrill of flying next to eagles to dealing with burnout, to answering the age-old question: have you ever been struck by lightning?  (Spoiler: you’ll want to buckle up for that one.) Writers and storytellers, this episode is also a quiet masterclass in character work. Whether you’re building an airline pilot protagonist or just want to capture the feeling of someone balancing logic, emotion, and a checklist, these two are gold. Part 2 lets you sit in the jump seat and hear what it really  feels like to live a life above the clouds. Let’s hang. Here's the link to this specific podcast episode on my website.  Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! Timestamps 00:00:57 What are typical emotions that you yourself go through? The anger, frustration, bliss. What's a sort of something that you experience on the daily, or that you would hope to experience on the daily, but instead you get X, Y, Z? 00:03:03 Now, why is it that you won't [the photo]? 00:06:03 "Actually, you ever been struck by lightning?" 00:08:42 So I'm hearing about eagles flying beside you, and these beautiful weather-related experiences. Is there anything else that really gets you excited about piloting and aviation that just makes your job fucking worth it? 00:12:58 What is the typical dress of those in either piloting or aviation? Does it vary based on what plane you're flying or what airline? 00:16:20 Do you get roasted a lot in this field? 00:18:35 What is the most draining part of the job? Something that is like your least favorite thing to do. 00:20:37 You touched on some stereotypes, but are there any stereotypes or cliches that you would like to take this platform to debunk? 00:23:57 So you mentioned that there were some things that might pop up where the plane is still operational. 00:30:09 So Murphy's Law states that anything that can go wrong will go wrong. What is something that perhaps is often overlooked or forgotten, that you need to just make sure that you flip this or check this? 00:34:19 Is there such thing as being too long in the industry, where there are pilots where it's just like, oh boy, you need to retire. 00:35:54 What is something that will take you off the roster? 00:39:51 So what kind of other sounds do you encounter? 00:42:57 I'm curious, like Florence Nightingale was a hero for nurses, like Arnold Schwarzenegger is a role model for bodybuilders. Is there a hero for pilots? 00:48:58 Earlier in the podcast, you mentioned plateaus. Do you guys have any personal experiences with hitting that plateau? 00:56:16 Contract negotiations are just on fire for pilots right now. 00:58:22 So when you see this problem on the news about the pilot shortage… 01:04:02 Why is it that [Spirit] got such a bad rap then? Key Takeaways: Pilot emotions = human emotions Flying might look sleek from the outside, but the reality includes frustration, fatigue, boredom, and the occasional burst of joy. The guys share stories that remind us that while pilots are professionals, they’re also people with real emotional landscapes. Stereotypes don’t hold altitude Forget the "Top Gun" mystique. Real pilots push back on media portrayals and share what it’s actually like in the cockpit. These stories unpack assumptions and reveal a broader, more grounded range of personalities in aviation. Murphy’s Law is always on standby Pre-flight rituals are habitual because they're so essential. One skipped checklist item can trigger a cascade of small issues. The margin for error is thin, which makes preparation sacred, not optional. Unsung heroes keep things flying Some of the most influential pilots aren’t household names. The stories shared highlight mentors and colleagues whose leadership, skill, and grace shape the profession far from the spotlight. Burnout happens at 30,000 feet too Even for those who love flying, the routine can wear thin. These conversations explore what it means to plateau mid-career—and how curiosity, mentorship, and challenge can reignite that original spark. Editor Note: There’s a subtle tension in this episode that any writer will appreciate: people working in high-stakes environments who still have to carry around the weight of daily emotions, minor annoyances, and self-doubt. Marco and Nate offer both insight and vulnerability—reminding us that even in a field built on precision, there’s still room for feeling. For storytellers, it’s a reminder that good characters don’t always need chaos to be compelling. Sometimes, the sky itself is the setting, the conflict, and the metaphor. Plus, there’s an offhand lightning strike story in here that’s cinematic gold. Just saying. Links & Resources: Articles about Flight Attire and Uniform Codes on Simple Flying Fatigue in Aviation Brochure from the Federal Aviation Administration Smithsonian's National Air and Space Museum 's list of People You Should Know From the site: "Their stories are united by one common feature—they made that history as members of historically excluded groups and communities. Members of these groups and communities didn't just face the common barriers encountered in aviation and space—barriers of engineering, physics, and more. They also faced barriers of prejudice, such as being denied training and resources. Overcoming these obstacles, they achieved their goals and made history.  This page is intended to be an introduction to a selection of history makers from some historically excluded groups. Our hope is that this page will excite you and encourage you to dig deeper into these stories and others."  Thunderstorm Formation and Aviation Hazards from The Front , NOAA’s National Weather Service's occasional (and not since 2020) newsletter Lightning and Planes article on National Weather Service 's website Part One of this Series Part Three of this Series Filed this under flight logs, Katherine Arkady

Introduction In Part One of this three-part series, Katherine chats with Marco and Nate—two regional pilots with nearly two decades of collective flight time. From what’s in their fridge (yep, we're going there) to what it’s like inside a flight simulator, this episode covers the nitty-gritty of daily pilot life with warmth, curiosity, and a dash of dry skin talk. If you’re someone who loves digging into real-world routines, quirky human details, and niche subcultures (especially ones with uniforms and acronyms), you’ll love this one. Katherine brings her signature writerly eye to the flight deck, asking questions that hover between “How does this actually work?” and “What’s the emotional cost of flying 30,000 feet above it all?” Welcome to the world of pilots—from personality assessments to hangar banter, and everything in between. Here's the link to this specific podcast episode on my website.  Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! TIMESTAMPS 00:00:49 What is in your fridge? 00:04:39 What is in your flight bags? 00:06:24 Do you guys get dry skin? 00:07:43 Is there anything else that you could spot on a pilot on their body where you're like, you're a pilot? 00:08:30 What accolades or credentials do you guys go by? 00:10:37 How did you get into cargo? 00:13:09 You'll go through ground school, and then you'll go through whatever flight portion you need to obtain the certificate, right? 00:13:45 What is it like being in a flight simulator? 00:16:01 What's a typical day for you? 00:18:03 How does it affect your sleep? 00:20:28 How do you go about saying that you're fatigued? 00:25:32 What cargo were you moving? 00:27:47 What makes a great instructor? 00:31:02 What's a personality assessment? 00:34:56 Working as a crew 00:36:44 Fixation. 00:39:23 What is the social culture of being a pilot, an instructor in an aviation scene, whether it's a hangar, whether it's an airport, whether it's just shooting the shit with other pilots, what is the culture that you guys get to share where nobody else understands the stuff that we go through? 00:42:50 Do you struggle in any way with friendships outside? 00:44:45 Your flight hours determine where you live in the country. 00:49:46 Could you guys moonlight as weathermen based on your knowledge? 00:50:25 aviationweather.gov . 00:51:15 What other resources do you guys use to either keep up on your knowledge or to inform you of new stuff that's in the field? 00:53:28 So as far as flying and getting all the credentials needed, is flying a plane in the US about the same or different as flying a plane in the UK versus flying a plane in the Uruguay versus flying a plane and does it vary state by state? 00:57:25 How fast is too fast? How slow is too slow? 01:00:40 So you said difference, that you go by FAA until there's a difference. 01:03:40 What makes [airports] so efficient? Key Takeaways: The body remembers what the job demands Dry skin, calloused hands, and disrupted sleep—all physical evidence of the labor and limits that come with flying. Pilots learn to read each other by these markers, like a shared language carved into the body. Saying “I’m fatigued” is its own form of courage Fatigue is a constant threat to safety in aviation. Pilots are trained to recognize it and speak up, but the culture doesn’t always make that easy. Owning your limits in a profession that valorizes grit takes knowledge and trust in your crew. Flight bags are biographies in disguise Every flight bag is a curated mix of policy, survival, and personality—logbooks and lip balm, checklists and lucky charms. What pilots carry says as much about who they are as what they do. It’s logistics AND identity. The classroom never closes Even after ground school and flight simulators, the training never stops. Pilots are always preparing for what-if scenarios they hope never happen. This readiness shapes how they think, react, and relate to risk itself. Pilots are quiet meteorologists Pilots study patterns, pressure systems, and cloud behavior with a precision most people overlook. Their fluency in turbulence, visibility, and forecasting is second nature, built from thousands of hours in the air and on the ground. Editor's Note: As a writer, I’m always chasing the "invisible work" behind a role—what people actually  carry, feel, say when no one's asking. This episode? It delivers. Pilots Marco and Nate opened up about the culture, rituals, and quiet intensity of flight life, and it reminded me how much language  and rhythm  shape every job, not just writing. If you’re building a character who flies, a world that moves at 500 knots, or even just looking for ways to ask better questions—this one’s for you. References & Links: aviationweather.gov  – The site mentioned by Nate and Marco for real-time weather reports and forecasts pilots rely on. FAA Airplane Flying Handbook (PDF)  – The actual training manual used by many student pilots. Inside a Flight Simulator – YouTube  – Look for a solid explainer or POV video from real training environments. Part Two of this Series Part Three of this Series From 30,000 feet to the written page, Katherine Arkady

If you've gotten your hair colored before, your colorist has probably put some foils in your hair. If you're a fan of Gothic architecture, you know a foil is a leaf-shaped, indented space which, combined with cusps (small, projecting arcs outlining the leaf design), are found especially in the tracery (decorative openwork) of Gothic windows. If you've left a party and they send you home with a plate, it's probably covered in foil . If you're a fan of period films and obscure sports, you know that a foil is the thin, light sword used in the sport of fencing. If you are out for revenge, you'll ultimately want to foil the plans of your enemy. If you know your jewelry, foil backing (or foiling) is a gemstone surface enhancement technique where a thin sheet of metal or other material (sometimes colored) is placed behind the gemstone in order to reflect more light, and/or color, back into the stone and then towards the viewer. Yes, foil is a very versatile and adaptive homonym. And a foil can help writers become versatile and adaptable, too! No need for a tinfoil hat to understand it either! The word " foil " originates from the Old French word "fuoille," which evolved from the Latin word "folium," meaning "leaf." The use of the word " foil " in the sense of a thin sheet of metal developed from its original meaning of "leaf." Just as leaves are thin and flexible, so too are foils . And the foils discussed in this blog post are similar in theory! A foil is essentially a character whose traits contrast sharply with those of another character — typically the main character. By emphasizing these differences, the foil helps to highlight certain qualities of the main character. Just like a leaf provides a backdrop for a flower. For example, if the protagonist is impulsive and reckless, a foil might be calm and methodical, emphasizing the protagonist's tendency to act without thinking. Who and what are some prominent foils? 1. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde in Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde by Robert Louis Stevenson  Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde are two sides of the same person, with Dr. Jekyll embodying restraint and morality, while Mr. Hyde represents unrestrained evil. Their juxtaposition explores the duality of human nature. 2. Sherlock Holmes and Dr. John Watson in The Sherlock Holmes Series by Arthur Conan Doyle Holmes is cold, analytical, and detached, while Watson is compassionate, emotional, and grounded. Watson's more human side highlights Holmes' near superhuman logic, making their partnership essential for readers to appreciate Holmes's genius. 3. Harry Potter and Draco Malfoy in the Harry Potter Series by J.K. Rowling While Harry is courageous, selfless, and humble, Draco is arrogant, privileged, and often cowardly. This contrast not only highlights Harry's virtues but also challenges him, as he often has to confront the darker aspects of himself. 4. Harry Potter and Neville Longbottom in the Harry Potter Series by J.K. Rowling While Harry and Neville may initially appear to be very different, with Harry as the courageous hero and Neville as the clumsy underdog, they are actually foils who share a similar backstory and potential for greatness. Neville’s growth throughout the series, culminating in his heroism in the final book, serves to emphasize Harry’s own journey, showing that heroes come in many forms. 5. Tom Buchanan and Jay Gatsby in The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald Tom is a brutish, old-money aristocrat who embodies the arrogance and entitlement of the upper class, while Gatsby, with his mysterious past and new money, represents ambition, optimism, and the pursuit of the American Dream. Their differences highlight the social tensions of 1920s America and the elusive nature of success. 6. Heathcliff and Edgar Linton in Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë Heathcliff is dark, brooding, and vengeful, while Edgar is gentle, refined, and compassionate. This contrast highlights the tumultuous emotions in the novel and Catherine Earnshaw’s internal conflict between love and societal expectations. 7. Elizabeth Bennet and Charlotte Lucas in Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen While Elizabeth is witty, idealistic, and determined to marry for love, Charlotte is practical and marries Mr. Collins for security. This contrast highlights Elizabeth’s progressive views on love and personal happiness, as well as the societal pressures faced by women in the Regency era. 8. Dorothy Gale and The Wicked Witch of the West in The Wonderful Wizard of Oz by L. Frank Baum Dorothy is kind, innocent, and empathetic, while the Witch is cruel, vengeful, and power-hungry. Their opposition emphasizes the power of kindness, courage, and friendship over fear and tyranny. "Okay but how can I put this towards my writing?" you ask me. The key to a great foil isn't just opposition for opposition's sake but the way this contrast enriches the story. Think of it as a mirror image that reflects a skewed version of the protagonist’s qualities. Your readers can see the traits in a new light. 1. Highlight Key Traits  Think about the main traits you want to emphasize in your protagonist. What qualities define them? By creating a foil with opposing traits, you can amplify the qualities that matter most. Let’s say your protagonist is patient and compassionate —you might create a foil who is impulsive and indifferent . This contrast serves as a "test" for your protagonist's patience and pushes them into situations where their usual approach wouldn't work, therefore, revealing their strengths and weaknesses. If your protagonist is idealistic and believes in doing the right thing, consider a foil who is realistic and pragmatic, willing to cut corners to get results. This dynamic can create moral tension and force your protagonist to confront their beliefs. Here are more examples: Optimistic vs. Pessimistic Samwise Gamgee vs. Boromir ( The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien) Courageous vs. Cowardly Harry Potter vs. Peter Pettigrew ( Harry Potter Series by J.K. Rowling) Humble vs. Arrogant Bilbo Baggins vs. Thorin Oakenshield ( The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien) Loyal vs. Untrustworthy Jane Eyre vs. St. John Rivers ( Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë) Determined vs. Indecisive Katniss Everdeen vs. Peeta Mellark ( The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins) Honest vs. Deceitful Elizabeth Bennet vs. George Wickham (Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen) Rational vs. Emotional Sherlock Holmes vs. Dr. John Watson (Sherlock Holmes Series by Arthur Conan Doyle) Generous vs. Stingy Jo March vs. Aunt March ( Little Women by Louisa May Alcott) Reserved vs. Outgoing Fitzwilliam Darcy vs. Charles Bingley ( Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen) Playful vs. Serious Pippin Took vs. Aragorn ( The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien) Naive vs. Cynical Pip vs. Miss Havisham ( Great Expectations by Charles Dickens) Responsible vs. Irresponsible Atticus Finch vs. Bob Ewell ( To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee) Forgiving vs. Vengeful Jean Valjean vs. Inspector Javert ( Les Misérables by Victor Hugo) Principled vs. Corrupt Jon Snow vs. Petyr Baelish ( A Song of Ice and Fire by George R.R. Martin) Meticulous vs. Careless Hercule Poirot vs. Chief Inspector Japp (Agatha Christie Novels) The foil’s contrasting nature can push your protagonist to grow or reveal their inner strengths and weaknesses. Consider how your foil character's presence might force your protagonist to confront uncomfortable truths about themselves. 2. Consider Their Relationship  While it sure does make a damn good story, foil characters don’t always have to be enemies! Consider these options for your tale: Friends with Opposing Traits Friends with contrasting traits can bring out the best (or worst) in each other, revealing hidden strengths and vulnerabilities. The tension can be subtle yet powerful, especially when one friend’s traits compensate for the other's flaws. Allies with Different Approaches Allies who share the same goal but have different methods can create compelling conflict. This dynamic is great for exploring themes like morality, sacrifice, and the greater good. Love Interests Love interests as foils can add layers to romantic tension, allowing both characters to grow and challenge each other in meaningful ways. Use this dynamic to explore themes of acceptance, compromise, and self-improvement. Siblings Sibling foils are ideal for exploring themes of family, loyalty, and identity. Their shared history can deepen the tension between them as they face conflicts in their personalities and choices. Mentor and Protégé A mentor can serve as a foil to the student by pushing them to question their beliefs and encouraging growth. This relationship can explore themes like trust, betrayal, or the cost of ambition. Rivals or Frenemies Rivals who are also foils can push each other to new extremes, revealing hidden strengths or weaknesses. This is great for exploring themes of obsession, ambition, and the thin line between good and evil. Sidekick and Hero A sidekick who acts as a foil can ground the hero or provide a different perspective, highlighting the hero’s strengths or flaws. This dynamic often adds humor, heart, or insight into the story. Parent and Child Parental foils can be used to explore generational conflicts, differing values, or the struggle between tradition and change. Team Members or Colleagues Colleagues who are foils can bring tension to professional settings, highlighting different approaches to solving problems or achieving goals. Strangers Turned Allies Characters who start as strangers but develop a partnership can reveal deeper contrasts as they learn to trust one another. This is perfect for character-driven narratives where relationships evolve over time. Furthermore, foils don't even have to be people/characters! Here are some things that don't even have dialogue! Symbolic Objects that Reflect Inner Conflict An object that contrasts with a character’s values or inner state can act as a foil , highlighting their internal struggle. Example: In The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde, the portrait of Dorian serves as a foil to Dorian himself. While Dorian remains youthful and beautiful, the portrait becomes grotesque, reflecting his corrupt soul. The contrast between the pristine character and the decaying portrait highlights the conflict between appearances and reality. Opposing Objects to Highlight Themes Two objects with opposite meanings can act as foils to highlight thematic contrasts in the story. Example: In Lord of the Flies by William Golding, the conch shell (symbolizing order, civilization, and authority) is contrasted with the pig’s head on a stick (representing chaos, savagery, and the loss of morality). The juxtaposition of these objects underscores the novel’s theme of civilization versus barbarism. Contrasting Personal Belongings Personal items can act as foils to reveal character traits, values, or lifestyles. Example: In Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone , Harry’s simple, secondhand wand contrasts with Draco Malfoy’s sleek, expensive wand. This difference highlights their backgrounds and values—Harry’s humble, modest beginnings versus Draco’s privileged, status-driven upbringing. Settings as Foils Locations or physical spaces can serve as foils to emphasize a character’s emotions or the atmosphere of a scene. Example: In Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights (wild, chaotic, and untamed) serves as a foil to Thrushcross Grange (peaceful, refined, and orderly). The contrasting settings reflect the temperaments of the characters associated with each location, such as Heathcliff’s raw passion versus the Lintons' gentility. Contrasting Gifts or Mementos Gifts or keepsakes can serve as foils , revealing characters’ intentions or deepening the emotional resonance of a scene. Example: In The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald, Daisy’s pearl necklace (a gift from Tom, representing wealth, status, and entrapment) contrasts with Gatsby’s letter (symbolizing love, hope, and dreams unfulfilled). These items highlight the conflict between love and materialism in Daisy’s life. Technology as a Foil Technology or tools can contrast with a character’s personality or the thematic elements of the story. Example: In Frankenstein by Mary Shelley, Victor Frankenstein’s scientific instruments and the creature he creates serve as foils to nature and human emotion, emphasizing the theme of man versus the natural world. Contrasting Clothing or Accessories Clothing or accessories can serve as foils to reveal contrasts in characters’ personalities or social status. Example: In A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens, Sydney Carton’s disheveled clothing contrasts with Charles Darnay’s neat, respectable attire, highlighting Carton’s inner turmoil and lack of self-worth in contrast to Darnay’s confidence and integrity. "But isn't all this just juxtaposition, Katherine?" you ask. Yeah... technically . While all foils are a type of juxtaposition, not all juxtaposition involves foils . The distinction lies in intention and focus: Foils are used to accentuate specific traits, themes, or qualities by way of direct contrast. Whether it's a character, an object, a setting, or even an abstract idea, a foil is designed to enhance our understanding of another element by presenting an opposing or contrasting aspect. Juxtaposition is broader, focusing on placing two or more things side by side to highlight contrasts or comparisons without necessarily aiming to emphasize one over the other or reveal deeper aspects of another element. Example : In A Tale of Two Cities , Charles Dickens opens with “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,” juxtaposing contradictory images to emphasize the paradoxical nature of that era. Using objects as foils involves assigning them a symbolic role to directly emphasize something about a character, plot, or theme. In this context, it’s not just about showing a difference but rather using that contrast to enhance understanding of another element: In The Picture of Dorian Gray , the portrait isn't just juxtaposed with Dorian—it’s a foil because it reflects the decay of his soul, making the contrast with his outward appearance deeply significant to the story's themes. The conch shell versus the pig’s head in Lord of the Flies aren’t just juxtaposed; they serve as foils because they represent opposing worldviews (order vs. chaos) that define the conflict among the characters. A quick analogy to help you remember!! Think of juxtaposition as placing two colors side by side —they pop more because of their contrast. Think of a foil as shining a spotlight on one color to show how vibrant it is by placing it next to a duller shade. The purpose of the foil is to make the first color stand out more. Just do your best to not overdo the contrast of the characters/objects. While foils are meant to highlight differences, they should still feel like real people and the situations (even if it's set in a fictional world) should seem likely to happen in your story. Here are some troubleshooting tips for foils : Too Obvious or Overdone Contrast? Problem : The foil is so stark and exaggerated that it becomes unrealistic or feels like a gimmick. The contrast might feel too on-the-nose, and the foil becomes more of a caricature than a nuanced reflection of the main character or theme. Example : A good, honest character paired with an evil, villainous character with no nuance. The contrast is so extreme that neither character feels fully realized. Fix : Make the foil’s traits subtle but distinct. Foils should enhance the complexity of the protagonist and the story, not feel like opposites in a simplistic way. Unnecessary Foils? Problem : Sometimes, writers introduce foils that don’t add much to the story or characters. If the contrast doesn’t reveal something essential about the main character or theme, the foil becomes irrelevant. Example : In a story about a brave adventurer, adding a whiny, cowardly character for the sake of contrast when the adventurer’s bravery is already clearly established could feel forced and unnecessary. Fix : Ensure the foil serves a purpose. The contrast should shed light on something meaningful—whether it’s a character’s growth, hidden traits, or underlying theme. If it doesn’t move the plot or deepen understanding, reconsider the foil . Forced or Inorganic Relationships? Problem : The relationship between the foil and the protagonist feels artificial or contrived, as if the writer is trying too hard to create tension or drama. Example : A heroic figure paired with a completely pessimistic sidekick with no real basis for their partnership. The relationship feels like it was added just to create conflict, but lacks real emotional or thematic weight. Fix : Make sure the foil has a logical or meaningful relationship with the protagonist. Their interactions should feel earned, not forced. The foil should ideally help illuminate aspects of the protagonist that would otherwise remain hidden. Foil is Underdeveloped or One-Dimensional? Problem : The foil itself is not fully realized or lacks depth. If the foil is too shallow or stereotypical, it can weaken the story by reducing the tension or contrast. Example : A cynical, jaded character is paired with a naïve, overly optimistic one, but the cynical character is just a generic, grumpy person with no backstory or reason for their pessimism. Fix : Develop the foil with the same care and depth as the protagonist. The foil should have their own motivations, history, and complexity. The contrast should reveal something profound about both characters. A Foil that Overpowers the Protagonist? Problem : Sometimes a foil can overshadow the protagonist, becoming so interesting or compelling that the main character feels weak or underdeveloped in comparison. Example : A strong-willed, independent character paired with a highly charismatic, powerful foil who steals all the focus. The foil ’s complexity might make the protagonist seem bland or lacking in contrast. Fix : Ensure the protagonist remains the center of attention, with the foil used to highlight specific aspects of their character. The foil should serve to enhance the protagonist’s development, not overshadow it. Inconsistent Foils? Problem : A foil ’s contrast may be inconsistent or arbitrary. This confuses readers instead of adding meaning to the story. Example : A compassionate character is paired with a ruthless character for contrast, but in one scene, the ruthless character acts out of character and is unexpectedly kind. This inconsistency undermines the foil ’s impact. Fix : Stay true to the foil ’s essential traits and ensure their behavior aligns with the larger themes or conflicts. Consistency is key to making the foil a meaningful counterpart. Overuse of Foils? Problem : Using too many foils in a story can dilute their effectiveness. When too many characters or objects are set up as foils to the protagonist, it can overwhelm the reader and weaken the contrast. Example : A protagonist has several foils , such as a friend, a romantic partner, a mentor, and even an object or setting, all trying to highlight different aspects of their character. This can be confusing or excessive. Fix : Focus on one or two carefully chosen foils that serve the narrative. Too many foils can diminish the emotional impact of each, so use them strategically to bring out the qualities you most want to highlight. Foils that Aren’t Actually Contrasting? Problem : The foil isn’t truly opposite or contrasting to the protagonist, which makes the relationship fall flat. The foil should highlight the differences, not just be a supporting character. Example : A confident leader paired with a shy, introspective leader who doesn’t really act as a foil because their qualities don’t contrast in a way that reveals anything significant about the other. Fix : Ensure there is a clear contrast between the two characters, objects, or ideas. The difference should highlight something important about the protagonist and their journey. No matter the genre, incorporating foils can be the secret ingredient that brings your characters to life. Using foils allows writers to explore character dynamics in a way that straightforward narration cannot. It’s a subtle yet powerful tool for deepening character development, revealing hidden depths, and exploring themes like morality, identity, and transformation. Let the contrasts guide your story and see where it takes you! May your foil character not be foiled ! Katherine Arkady

Introduction In Part Two  of this two-part series, Alex, the experienced coffee shop manager, continues sharing insights into the coffee world. From dealing with customers and navigating the unique culture of a coffee shop to tips for aspiring baristas, Alex dives deep into the nitty-gritty of barista life. He touches on everything from sensory environments and managing chaos, to building relationships with regulars and dealing with tough shifts. If you’ve ever wondered about the day-to-day operations of a coffee shop, the skills you need to thrive as a barista, or what goes into making a perfect latte, this episode is full of rich, aromatic content to satisfy your curiosity. Here's the link to this specific podcast episode on my website.  Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! Timestamps 00:00:48 What movies or TV shows or songs or other media get what you do correct? 00:02:16 Do you agree with a lot of stereotypes? 00:07:23 Overhearing a lot of hot goss in the shop 00:08:05 Is your team pretty gossipy? 00:08:32 Does the soundscape of your work environment influence your productivity or creativity? 00:08:38 If it's really noisy, are you able to make coffee no problem? 00:09:51 How do you curate a playlist for the shop? 00:12:34 How important is verbal communication with guests and also with your team? 00:14:03 What's the difference between a cappuccino and a latte? 00:15:39 Do you have an acute sense of hearing for certain problems? 00:17:30 What's the typical dress code? 00:18:51 Do you have a love-hate relationship with any of the appliances? 00:20:56 What's the science with tamping? 00:22:42 Do coffee beans or grounds have a distinct feeling or tactile characteristic that you look for? 00:23:36 Is it true that if you roast it longer, there's less caffeine? 00:24:50 What makes a good pour over? 00:26:53 Do you have anything that you reach for comfort at the coffee shop? 00:28:00 In an increasingly digital world, how do you balance the virtual and physical realms of your work? 00:30:48 Do you have any immediate thoughts on tipping? 00:34:42 Let's talk about some coffee temperatures. 00:35:12 If something, like if an espresso shot was pulled poorly, like it's too sour or something, is there any saving that with the other ingredients with the drinks that you put in? 00:37:07 What gets you excited about working at the shop? 00:37:21 What about it drains your energy? 00:38:54 What's in the refrigerator of a coffee barista? 00:40:34 Let's talk about dairy and dairy alternatives. 00:42:52 Do any scents or flavors when you're outside of the shop trigger you into feeling like you're back in the shop? 00:45:57 Is there something where like this box of X, Y, Z has been here for like way too long because you never use it? 00:46:20 When you make your syrups, what's the process with that? 00:47:32 The term third place originates from a 1989 book called The Great Good Place by sociologist Ray Oldenburg…Are there challenges or considerations that you make related to maintaining a balanced sensory environment? 00:50:10 What sort of work do you see people doing there? 00:51:05 If you were to make a candle representing your coffee shop, what fragrances would it have? 00:52:59 Murphy's Law states that anything that can go wrong will go wrong. What is something that perhaps is often overlooked or forgotten when it comes to operating a coffee shop? 00:53:54 Is there less coffee drinking in the summer versus the winter? 00:54:40 Is it safe to assume that in the summer and the hot months, more ice drinks are going to be made, and then in the winter, in the colder months, more hot drinks are going to be made? 00:56:15 Do you notice perhaps the younger demographic getting more sweet drinks compared to the older demographic getting more robust drinks? 00:56:59 How has your intuition evolved or grown as you've gained experience with the shop? 00:58:12 What is something that you had to learn on the job? 00:58:41 Did you have advice from people or is that learning on the job? 00:59:09 What's a sign that a day is going to go well? 00:59:26 What's a sign that the day is going to go badly? 00:59:43 Shift Change and Schedules  01:02:02 Do you have any advice for individuals who are aspiring to be a barista entering the world of coffee shops? 01:03:41 Where can one find more information about baristas and or coffee shops? 01:05:08 Do you notice that Detroit does their coffee a certain way? 01:05:55 How important is networking or building professional relationships within the industry? 01:07:02 What strategies have you found effective for nurturing these connections? 01:08:42 How many times does one visit a coffee shop before they become a regular? 01:09:13 So what is something that you think most people working in coffee shops might like changed about the industry? 01:11:19 What did it take 10,000 hours for you to learn about coffee or coffee shops? 01:11:58 If there was a latte art specifically for your shop, what do you think that it would look like? 01:12:59 Was latte art always a thing or has this like started within the last few years? 01:14:01 When reading books and journals from 30 years ago, even like 10 years ago, there's bound to be out of date tools or terminology…Regarding baristas, coffee, coffee shops, the whole gamut…Have you seen much change in what's happened? 01:14:44 Going off the question regarding things going out of date, what is something that is probably future proof? 01:16:03 Do you have any [espresso machine] brands in mind that you might recommend? 01:16:24 If you read (blank) in a book about coffee, baristas, coffee shop, whatever, if you read blank, you would know that the author did their research. 01:17:11 If somebody wasn't in this field, they would never believe what? Key Takeaways: Coffee shop culture is multisensory (by design!) Curated playlists. The hiss of steam wands. The scent of syrups. The café soundscape isn’t accidental. Alex speaks to how sensory awareness affects workflow, creativity, and guest comfort. Gossip, guest talk, and shop-floor sociology Baristas overhear it all! They know you've been flirting, venting and spilling the tea. This constant stream of social input shapes not just the vibe of the space, but team dynamics and emotional boundaries behind the counter. Taste and texture are tactile skills Crafting a perfect drink involves more than taste. From tamp pressure to grind feel, baristas develop sensory intuition that can’t be taught in a manual. It can only be refined through hours of lived practice. Comfort rituals matter in a fast-paced space Amid the rush, baristas often reach for familiar comforts: a favorite mug, a steady playlist, even a well-worn towel. These small rituals offer moments of grounding in an environment defined by constant motion and sensory overload. The job evolves and you have to evolve with it Technology, trends, and even terminology shift over time. Alex speaks about intuition as a professional tool. He works on recognizing regulars’ moods, adapting on the fly, and embracing a craft that is never static. Editor's Note: In Part Two of the Coffee and Baristas  series, Katherine continues her conversation with Alex, exploring deeper layers of café culture—from the science of tamping and the psychology of tipping, to the hidden codes of communication between coworkers and regulars. Writers looking to go beyond surface-level depictions will find an abundance of character cues here: how playlists shape a space, what scents trigger memories, why baristas develop superhuman hearing, and how intuition grows with time on the bar. It’s a study in presence and perception, grounded in a place that’s equal parts workplace, social hub, and personal refuge. If you’re writing about connection, tension, or the unspoken rules of public-yet-personal spaces, this episode delivers the details that breathe life into every cup and conversation. Enjoy the brew! Links & Resources: Barista Guild  - For aspiring baristas, check out education and research programs Serious Eats' take on the Best Espresso Machines Part One of this Series Continue to "espresso" yourself, Katherine Arkady

Introduction In Part One of this warm and frothy two-part series, Katherine cozies up with Alex, the operating manager of her favorite local coffee shop. Alex brings several years of experience in the coffee world to the table—along with a few unforgettable stories. From deciphering complicated espresso orders to watching romances (and breakups) unfold over cappuccinos, this episode captures the full flavor of life behind the bar. They talk third wave coffee, customer quirks, latte art, and what it really means to build a community over caffeine. If you’re a writer curious about people-watching in cafes or someone who just loves the hum of espresso machines and the ritual of a good brew, this episode is your next great listen. Here's the link to this specific podcast episode on my website.  Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! Timestamps 00:01:21 But when and how did you get involved in this field? 00:02:08 Third wave, what does that mean? 00:02:38 So did you ever see yourself doing this beforehand, like getting into the coffee? 00:04:10 Intro of “Fact or Fiction” 00:04:30 Is it common for you to have regulars who come in daily and spend hours at the shop? 00:06:41 As the proverbial Gunther, the owner of Central Park, what sort of relationships do you get to foster with the regulars? 00:08:22 Do customers claim specific tables or spots in the shop that are their own or are there like regulars that only sit in like the corner spot that you know, you got to have that table ready? 00:10:22 Does weather affect the shop? 00:13:03 Have you ever had customers request to perform or sing or bring something out of the Ordinary to the shop? 00:13:58 What are the hours of your shop? 00:15:20 Have you witnessed romantic encounters in your cafe, and are there any first dates, proposals, or awkward breakups that just really stick out? 00:18:59 How long do customers usually hang out there, and what's the longest anybody has ever stayed? 00:22:22 Karens 00:24:41 Do you ever have customers that come in without ordering things? 00:26:46 Has there ever been a situation where a regular customer ended up working at the café or helping out behind the counter? 00:30:01 Do people ever use your shop to celebrate parties or anything? 00:31:02 Have you or any of your coworkers ever had a crush on a regular customer or noticed customers crushing on each other? 00:33:06 What is the most complex or strange coffee order you have ever had to make? 00:37:00 Do you know [people] by, like, their coffee order? 00:37:26 What's “single origin”? 00:38:25 Have there been any memorable accidents, spills, or other incidents in your cafe that felt like something out of a sitcom? 00:42:26 Have you had any local town celebrities or influencers come in? 00:46:32 Do you ever give away free drinks to regulars or under special circumstances? 00:48:26 Do you ever have to cut people off from coffee? 00:51:29 When you said for a certain amount of time for the espresso pulls, what is that? 00:52:13 What does it mean to adjust the grind? 00:55:28 Would anything on your body give away that you work at a coffee shop? 00:56:48 Latte Art  00:58:23 What does a rosetta look like, and what does a stack look like? 00:59:10 Are there elements that are in, like, a certain coffee drink where you know that a rosetta or a stack is just not going to turn up? 01:00:24 Are there people that take drinks that aren't theirs? 01:02:10 Is there a preferred order or way in which you would appreciate the order being asked for? 01:07:05 And are the codes that you use, are they pretty standard? 01:08:47 I went out of my way to see what the most complicated order at Starbucks could be. Key Takeaways: Third wave coffee is about intention, not trend From bean to brew, this movement focuses on quality, sustainability, and craftsmanship. Coffee is less like a commodity and more like wine or cuisine. There is respect for sourcing, roasting, and the ritual of preparation. Baristas are cultural anchors Baristas are more than a person behind the counter. They often become steady presences in their customers’ daily lives. Baristas are more like confidants, local historians, mood-setters, and sometimes the most consistent part of someone’s week. Customers shape the atmosphere Alex shares stories ranging from rude entitlement to deeply human moments. One minute it’s complaints about oat milk foam, the next minute it’s a regular opening up about a job loss. Coffee culture is emotional labor in disguise. Behind every pour is quiet mastery Latte art might look casual, but it reflects deep skill. I'm talking tamp pressure, microfoam technique... Crafting espresso drinks is a mix of science, repetition, and muscle memory. It’s physical, mental, and artistic work—done fast. Coffee shops are full of unscripted stories Baristas witness it all: first dates, quiet breakups, book club meetings, and lives unfolding in real time. Cafés are rich with narrative tension, accidental poetry, and the kind of overheard dialogue writers dream about. Editor's Note: If you’ve ever posted up in a coffee shop to write, you already know there’s a rhythm to the place—a cast of characters, a vibe that shifts with the seasons. This episode peels back the curtain with humor and heart, giving us a glimpse of what it’s like to live on the other  side of the espresso machine. If you're scripting a scene behind the counter or trying to understand what drives someone to pour hundreds of perfect drinks a day, this episode is rich with tactile detail. From soundscapes and team dynamics to the choreography of the espresso machine, it’s a goldmine for building authentic characters or sensory-rich environments that feel lived-in and real. For writers looking to better understand dialogue, human behavior, or just spark their creativity in unexpected places, this is an audio goldmine. Links & Resources: What Is Third Wave Coffee? from Perfect Daily Grind Latte Art Tutorial by Emilee Bryant on YouTube Buzzfeed's thoughts on Complicated Starbucks Orders How to Adjust Coffee Grind Size by Java Presse Should You Write in a Coffee Shop? by RemoteWriting.com Dr. Sunalini Menon: The Sprudge Twenty Interview in the Sprudge Interview Series Part Two of this Series May your dialogue flow like a perfect pour-over, Katherine Arkady

Introduction In this episode, Katherine chats with Dave, a guitarist who’s been playing since the age of fourteen. With experience in eight different bands, Dave gives Katherine (and listeners) a deep dive into the real-life dynamics of playing in a band. Ranging from managing multiple projects to the highs and lows of live performances, this episode uncovers what it’s really like to be part of a band. If you're a musician yourself or if you're writing about a character in a band, or just curious, you’ll walk away with fresh insights into the world of live music. Ready to rock? Let’s dive in! Here's the link to this specific podcast episode on my website. Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! TIMESTAMPS 00:02:21 What is in the fridge of a guy who plays in a cover band? 00:04:23 How does one divide your time amongst one band, let alone two? 00:04:27 How is that for your schedule and working a full-time job? 00:08:18 Are there pros and cons to the cover band in which you can, you know, you know what the sounds are gonna be like. 00:08:34 Is there any sort of downside to having both things going on at the same time? 00:12:28 What is it like as the entertainer aspect of playing in the cover band? 00:12:34 What is it like playing to the audience in that way? 00:15:23 What makes a great night? 00:17:21 What's a clean tone? 00:23:07 What does it mean to be tone-oriented? 00:25:57 A word from our sponsor. 00:26:32 What's a bad night? 00:27:51 How do you down tune? 00:32:09 How long were these tours? 00:35:05 Do you feel the high adrenaline, you know, during the show? 00:35:09 Do you feel the low sort of post show? 00:35:14 What are the emotions that you've had to come to terms with when playing as you do? 00:41:22 What's the difference between what you show them and what you're not ready to, you just want to keep it to yourself. 00:43:59 Do you find yourself becoming friends with people that understand kind of the social culture of playing in a band, that when you're away, it will take you some time to process once you're back from a tour. 00:44:18 Do you kind of have to be with friends with people that are also in bands or in bands adjacent? 00:53:47 So what's this community like? 00:54:09 Have you acquired this knowledge through all of this playing that you've done? 00:54:15 Have you acquired this knowledge specifically because Paper Covers Rock is a 90s band, and you kind of have to know the history? 00:56:50 What was it like to tell your parents? Key Takeaways: Audience response shapes the show Dave shares how the energy of a crowd can dramatically alter a performance. The connection between artist and audience is active and immediate, influencing not just mood, but how the music is delivered. Great performances often come from this live, reciprocal exchange. Performing creates emotional highs and lows The adrenaline of performing is intense—but what follows can be just as powerful. Dave reflects on the emotional crash that can come post-show, highlighting a common but often unspoken aspect of creative work: the physiological toll of giving so much, so quickly. Vulnerability is part of the craft Live performance invites emotional exposure, but Dave discusses the importance of intentional boundaries. There’s a conscious choice in what you share and what you hold back, and that curation is part of what makes performance both personal and sustainable. A bad night is still meaningful Not every gig lands—and that’s part of the process. Whether it’s due to tech issues or off energy, Dave reframes “bad” shows as instructive rather than discouraging. Each one offers feedback, helping performers grow in skill, awareness, and adaptability. Community sustains the musician’s life Musicians often find deep connection with others in the scene. Dave speaks to the unspoken understanding among peers—the ease of being with people who know the demands of performing. These bonds offer more than support—they make the work possible. Editor’s Note: As a writer, there’s something really fascinating about peeling back the layers of what it’s like to be part of a band. This episode is exactly that—it’s an honest, behind-the-scenes look into the life of a musician. And, I’ll admit, it’s one of those episodes that made me want to keep listening just to hear more about the balance between creativity, chaos, and connection that comes with being in a band. Dave’s experience gives us a peek into the emotional and logistical sides of band life— juggling multiple projects, the adrenaline of live shows, and that post-performance crash we’ve all heard about. It’s easy to imagine the “rockstar life” from the outside, but Dave makes it clear that there’s more to it than the cool persona— it’s about managing people, expectations, and most of all, your own energy. As someone who writes about people’s stories, I’m always on the lookout for that blend of truth and vulnerability, and this episode definitely delivers. If you’ve ever been curious about what it’s like to balance the thrill of the stage with the everyday grind, or even what happens when a show goes bad , this episode really pulls you into that world. And, if you’re a fellow creative, there’s so much to take away about the emotional side of performing and how it connects to what we do as writers, artists, and creators. But don’t get too comfortable! Part Two promises to go even deeper, and we’ll be exploring more of Dave’s journey through the lens of his musical knowledge and personal growth. So, stick around, because this conversation is far from over! Links & Resources: Check out Jackson and the Poolsharks on their website , Spotify , Apple Music , and Instagram . More info on down-tuning your guitar? Check out this guide . Listen to Part Two from the "Playing in a Band" series here . Keep the music alive, Katherine Arkady

Introduction In the final part of this candid and emotionally resonant series, Katherine sits down with our anonymous guest  for a wide-ranging conversation on reclaiming life, identity, and freedom after leaving a cult. Through reflection, analysis, and moments of both levity and gravity, they explore what comes after escape: the long process of unlearning, healing, and re-entering the world. This episode dives into pop culture, spirituality, horror as catharsis, and what documentaries get right—and wrong—about cult life. You’ll hear powerful reflections on trust, autonomy, and the ongoing journey of writing a new story after surviving a system of control. Here's a link to the podcast episode on my website.  Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! Time Stamps: 00:01:32  What other gossip was happening amongst the church? 00:02:38  You said a hundred people. Was there like a flow of there was a minimum, there was a maximum? 00:03:15  Was it ever discouraged going to the doctor? 00:04:05  Tell me more about healing hands. 00:04:47  Were there some church members that were a little louder than others? 00:05:35  Was that truly believed to a level of, like, yes, women are healers, but God is ultimate? 00:06:52  Is Aunt Bessie a reference to something? 00:08:40 Was it just God or was there like the Trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit? 00:09:40  What were you able to watch as a kid? 00:10:40  Once you were out, and you could watch relatively anything, how did that feel? 00:12:15  Are there any [bible] verses that you might still hold close to you because you like them? 00:14:38  What was it like regaining your freedom of choice? 00:16:11  Did you have to learn how to trust yourself? 00:17:43 What's the difference between a cult and a military? 00:19:29  Did you find comfort being in the military after your experience in the cult? 00:21:18  When you say that you're learning this dark humor, how does that come about? 00:23:27  What tactics have you utilized to get the pop culture refresh into your brain? 00:24:32  What is it about horror that you're able to enjoy? 00:27:32  Were there ever doomsday prophecies with the cult? 00:29:03  You and I have watched a few documentaries on Cults, the Twin Flames documentary, the Keep Sweet and Obey documentary. What about these documentaries do you feel get it right? 00:34:07  “As to what the documentaries got wrong, I can't speak to too much because every cult is different.” 00:35:05  Would you like to see something being made about the cult that you were a part of? 00:36:38  ”Anybody could fall victim to a cult.” 00:37:44  What traits would that leader have to have? 00:38:28 What resources would you suggest writers utilize to better write about Cults, either fictional or realistic, in their own writing? 00:39:34  If I were to only watch one documentary to get that cultness through, what would it be? 00:41:15  What is the best way to heal from a cult experience? 00:44:54  What might you want to say to somebody listening who is questioning the organization that they are currently in, that it may also be of a cult persuasion? Key Takeaways: Reclaiming agency takes time: Freedom isn’t just physical—it's emotional, creative, and cultural. Healing can look like horror: Pop culture and dark humor provide surprising comfort when survivors reframe their trauma. Cults are not all the same: While patterns exist, each group carries unique methods of control and belief systems. Media representation matters: Survivors are watching, listening, and weighing what’s accurate and what misses the mark. Survival does not end the story: Leaving is only one part of the journey. Recovery, reflection, and redefining yourself takes a lifetime. Editor's Notes: The end of a series like this is never really an end.  For writers exploring trauma, survival, or systems of control, what you hear in this episode may echo into your own creative process—your characters, your themes, your pacing, or even your inner life. This episode is a reminder that survivors don’t owe their stories, but when they choose to share them, it’s a gift. As a writer, it’s your responsibility to meet that gift with clarity, care, and caution. The truth is: cults don’t always look extreme from the inside. Sometimes, they look like family. Like faith. Like structure. That nuance matters. If you're writing about characters with these experiences—fictional or real—ask yourself not just what  they survived, but how  they keep living. How do they rediscover joy, humor, love? What makes them more than what they endured? Stories like this aren’t just exposés—they’re emotional blueprints. Use them wisely, use them well, and check in with yourself often. Writing from dark places doesn’t mean you have to stay there. Links & Resources: Support Groups People Leave Cults : offers information and services for cult intervention, cult recovery, and cult support groups. They serve current and former cult members, their family, friends, and loved ones Cult Recovery 101 : Has an excellent directory of organizations for cult recovery The National Association of Forensic Counselors  has extensive Information on Cults and Support for Former Cult Members   Books on Cults & High-Control Groups (For Research & Inspiration) "Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism" by Amanda Montell  – A deep dive into how language is used to manipulate and control within cults and cult-like organizations. "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker  – Explores how manipulation and control tactics work, especially in coercive environments. "A Thousand Lives: The Untold Story of Hope, Deception, and Survival at Jonestown" by Julia Scheeres  – A well-researched account of one of history’s most infamous cults. "Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control" by Luna Lindsey  – Focuses on mind control techniques within religious groups, applicable for understanding coercion in storytelling. Writing Guides & Storytelling Resources "The Writer’s Guide to Psychology" by Carolyn Kaufman  – Helps writers accurately depict psychological manipulation and trauma. Sensitivity Reader Directories  – If a writer wants to ensure they’re handling cult survivors’ experiences respectfully, a sensitivity reader can help. Consider having a reader look through your story to ensure you're hitting the right chords without doing any damage. International Cultic Studies Association  has an online library  of articles, book reviews, periodicals, and plenty other resources divided by topics including (but definitely not limited to)  Born or Raised in Cultic Groups (SGAs)  , Cultic Therapies , Cults 101 , Ethical Issues , Families , Former Group Members , Government and Public Policy ,   Personal Accounts , Political Cultism , and Social Influence . Truth echoes long after escape, Katherine Arkady

Introduction In Part Two of Takes One to Write One: Cults , Katherine sits down again with her anonymous guest as they dig deeper into life inside a high-control religious group. This episode explores the long-term impact of spiritual abuse, how loyalty was weaponized, and what happens when someone begins to question everything they’ve ever been taught. Together, they unpack relationships, identity, and the emotional unraveling that often follows the first steps toward freedom. It’s an honest, intense, and insightful look into the psychological grip these groups can have—even long after someone leaves. Trigger warnings include trauma, spiritual and emotional abuse, psychological manipulation, and suicidal ideation. Please listen with care. Here's a link to the podcast episode on my website.   Listen to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all other major platforms! Timestamps 00:01:26 What differences did you notice in these “biblified” holidays?  00:03:41 What were birthdays like? 00:04:13 Speaking of siblings and their names from the bible… 00:05:50 And y'all could have pets like typical household families? 00:08:44 To have siblings that weren't around for the cult, that are growing up in a different way. How do you feel about that? 00:10:24 You touched on the sex education or rather lack of. Is that the only way —abstinence? 00:11:53 Was there any talk about the health of like, hey, you're, this is what happens with puberty? 00:13:18 What is in the Bible regarding menstruation? 00:15:51 Did you experience other women in the church being pregnant? 00:18:21 You mentioned at five years old, you knew who you were, quote unquote, destined to marry. Did you have a friendship with the person, or relationship? 00:20:02 What sex education do you suppose the guys got? 00:21:56 “I know one of the guys that assaulted me, assaulted one of my sisters.” 00:22:33 Is that out of shame that you didn't share with each other? 00:24:09 So now that you're not involved, and you exited, what was the removal process like for you? 00:26:45 You mentioned earlier how overwhelming it was to be in the greater world of things. How did you cope with that? 00:29:16 “I never even saw the r*pes as r*pe until I was in college.” 00:33:14 So when you were trying one of every [drug], did you find answers out of those experiences? 00:35:23 What was ultimately something that really helped you start the healing? 00:36:39 This may have been weeks ago, perhaps an off comment, where you were figuring out like, there's not a hell, there's not this, there's not, and it was like, your whole belief system was crashing around you. How long did that take to get over? 00:38:13 “Since the day I was born, I was told these shoulders are going to send me to hell.” 00:39:35 Tell me more about you looking into Greek mythologies. 00:44:32 “I have struggled with s*icid*l ideation adhesion since leaving the cult because suicide is a sin, according to the Bible and according to the cult.” 00:46:13 Is an identity crisis the right term to use for that? 00:46:49 Do you find more solace from talking to folk that were also involved in cults, or do you find more solace from folk that have never been in cults? 00:50:08 So these claims, it seems very your word against everybody else's. Does stuff like this get caught in that rumor mill and all of the gossip? Key Takeaways: Control over identity begins early: Our guest shares how even holidays, names, and pets were shaped by rigid doctrine, creating a totalizing worldview. Sex education was absent or harmful: Conversations about bodies, puberty, and relationships were filtered through shame and silence, leading to confusion and trauma. Trauma is often redefined in hindsight: The guest discusses realizing in college that their experiences were abusive, even though they had been normalized. Healing is layered: From experimenting with substances to exploring mythology, rebuilding belief systems and self-identity is nonlinear—but possible. There is strength in speaking: Naming harm out loud, especially in the face of rumor mills and denial, is part of reclaiming truth and power. Editor's Note: As a writer, it’s powerful—and often emotionally risky—to sit with stories like this. Interviews that dive into trauma, coercion, and identity loss are not just research; they become echoes we carry. Listening, transcribing, editing—each step asks us to hold space for someone else’s pain, and sometimes it stirs our own. You might find yourself haunted by a particular quote, pausing longer than usual, or needing a break after writing a few lines. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It means you’re honoring the story. This episode, like many others in this series, exists in that emotional gray zone between survival and storytelling, harm and healing. As you create from or reflect on this space, remember: it’s okay to feel heavy. It’s okay to step away. You don’t owe anyone your detachment. Let this story remind you that writing is an act of presence, not perfection. That telling someone else’s truth—especially when it’s raw and complex—requires empathy, boundaries, and a deep respect for what isn’t yours to resolve. If you’re a writer working on something similar: take breaks. Reconnect to joy. Seek support when you need it. And always, always ask yourself: Am I writing with care, or just writing to finish? You’re allowed to feel this. You’re allowed to protect your peace. And you’re still a storyteller even when you need to rest. Links & Resources: Support Groups People Leave Cults : offers information and services for cult intervention, cult recovery, and cult support groups. They serve current and former cult members, their family, friends, and loved ones Cult Recovery 101 : Has an excellent directory of organizations for cult recovery The National Association of Forensic Counselors  has extensive Information on Cults and Support for Former Cult Members   Books on Cults & High-Control Groups (For Research & Inspiration) "Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism" by Amanda Montell  – A deep dive into how language is used to manipulate and control within cults and cult-like organizations. "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker  – Explores how manipulation and control tactics work, especially in coercive environments. "A Thousand Lives: The Untold Story of Hope, Deception, and Survival at Jonestown" by Julia Scheeres  – A well-researched account of one of history’s most infamous cults. "Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control" by Luna Lindsey  – Focuses on mind control techniques within religious groups, applicable for understanding coercion in storytelling. Writing Guides & Storytelling Resources "The Writer’s Guide to Psychology" by Carolyn Kaufman  – Helps writers accurately depict psychological manipulation and trauma. Sensitivity Reader Directories  – If a writer wants to ensure they’re handling cult survivors’ experiences respectfully, a sensitivity reader can help. Consider having a reader look through your story to ensure you're hitting the right chords without doing any damage. International Cultic Studies Association  has an online library  of articles, book reviews, periodicals, and plenty other resources divided by topics including (but definitely not limited to)  Born or Raised in Cultic Groups (SGAs)  , Cultic Therapies , Cults 101 , Ethical Issues , Families , Former Group Members , Government and Public Policy ,   Personal Accounts , Political Cultism , and Social Influence . And they hold conferences! Coping With Cult Involvement: A Handbook for Families and Friends  (Second Edition) by Livia Bardin, M.S.W. If you or somebody you know is struggling with suicidal ideation, there is help. The national " 988 " Suicide and Crisis Lifeline can be called or texted and is available 24/7/365. Your conversations are free and confidential. https://988lifeline.org/ Write with care. Listen with heart, Katherine Arkady